Welcome The Changes You Want To See In Your Life

The holidays have passed while the coronavirus is well and alive. Do you expect something to change now that the New Year has begun? "Of course not! Things will just continue as always," said Anna, a client of mine with two young daughters. "Every year, I say to myself that something will change. Perhaps this year my husband will recognize how difficult it is to be a working mom. Perhaps my best friend will have fewer expectations of me. Perhaps my mother will not worry so much every time I forget to call her back. Something will finally change."

What do you think? Do people change because you want them to? Or because you keep on bugging them on the same subject all the time? "It's not like I sit still. I repeat the same things over and over again, but nothing happens. What else can I do?" wondered Anna.

However, it's not about how many times you repeat something. It's about changing the way you do it and trying different approaches. Otherwise, you will not get the results you want. Your behavior may influence the behavior of others but not towards your desired direction. The most you may succeed is to get angry, indifferent, or grumpy responses. You cannot change someone unless they want to. The only one who can change - if you desire to - is you!

So think about what changes you can make for yourself. To do so, you need to take some distance from yourself. If the issues that are bothering you, were bothering a friend of yours instead, how would you perceive them? By changing your perspective, you realize how much easier it is to offer advice to someone else than to yourself, no matter how difficult the situation. Yet, the advice we give to others is what we most need for ourselves. So, if you would like to welcome some changes in your life, do not expect others to make the first step - start with yourself.

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